What’s a Mother to Do

We’re one month closer to the November wedding date. So what’s happened since January…not as much as I’d hoped. I was able to find someone who can make a wedding dress so that was a major step in the right direction, but other than that, it’s mostly been discussions with Emily. Now don’t get me wrong, that’s essential…just still don’t have much nailed down.

Emily got some disappointing news that one of the caterers she was hoping to use will be closing his business so he won’t be available in November. She still has a couple of other options but needs to contact them to get menu suggestions and prices. I think floral decisions have been made for decor and while we’ve discussed ideas about bouquets, we still need to finalize plans with a florist…narrowed down to two choices.

According to the timeline, it’s time to look at invitations and stationery. I need to check with Emily, but I’m pretty sure this has been done. She’s planning to design the invitations and has a rough draft of the design as well as an estimate for the cost of printing. I know this sounds risky to design your own, but since she designed the invitations, response cards, and thank you notes for Meghan’s wedding, I’m sure she can do it for her own. It’s time to finish the design so they can be sent to a printer, especially if she plans to send save-the-date cards.

Also on the to do list…decide on music. Are we looking for a band? a DJ? What’s the plan for music for the service as well as at the reception. If we use a non-traditional venue what type of sound system will be required? I know Emily and Brian have several friends with music connections so it’s time to put those connections to work.

Nine months. Still plenty of time. (John and I did all of this in two months…nine is an eternity!) But I’ll feel better when a few more items are finalized.

What’s a Mother to Do?

It’s time to plan another wedding. On October 15, 2011, daughter #1 (first born, not favorite) married after a yearlong engagement. A year of planning, meeting with vendors, making decisions about location, guest lists, and wedding dress selection.

First mother of the bride experience - October 15, 2011.
First mother of the bride experience – October 15, 2011.

Now daughter #2 (second born) has set her wedding date for November of this year so it’s time to begin the serious business of planning another fall wedding. In fact, the wedding is ten months from today so what’s a mother to do?

The date’s been set, members of the bridal party have been selected, and we’ve discussed a budget and general ideas about location, style, and guests. Ideas for a wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses, and attire for the groomsmen have been collected and shared. I’ve set up an Evernote file to store any and all notes regarding wedding plans so I can access information not only from my computer but even from my phone. It’s always with me.  I wish I had known about this system for storing notes when planning the first wedding.

Our goals for the month: nail down a venue, arrange a time to look for a dress, and interview caterers. My job – insure that we stay on schedule. Offer to make calls or meet with vendors; but without pushing my ideas or nagging. I’m ready, willing, and able to be a partner in the planning process; but I’m also happy taking the back seat. After all, this is not my wedding.

Good news! The officiant and photographer have been selected! Two important items checked off the to do list, and best of all, I’m not a rookie. I’ve done this once. I’m sure I can do it again. I’m looking forward to another year of wedding planning.