Celebrating 36 Years

I stepped out of the shower this morning with wet hair to the smell of bacon and was met by my wonderful husband on bended knee to a proposal that we spend the next 36 years together. What a wonderful way to start the day in celebration of our 36th anniversary.


Not long after we met at Western Carolina University, this guy (not a breakfast eater) started joining me for breakfast every morning at Dodd Cafeteria because he knew breakfast was my favorite meal of the day and no matter how early my classes, I never missed my bacon, eggs, toast and juice.


And one of the things he promised me when we married was a lifetime of breakfasts. A promise he’s kept by faithfully preparing bacon, sausage, pancakes, waffles, french toast, eggs and other specialties.


So, of course, this morning was no exception with his version of an Egg McMuffin…something we refer to as an Egg McCollum and a glass of OJ.

Tonight we celebrate at Mom and Dad’s Italian Restaurant, a place we’ve enjoyed since my first visit to Ocklawaha. Happy anniversary to the best husband ever…yes, I’m ready for the next 36!

Happy Ybor Anniversary

Today’s a big day, our 35th anniversary! And guess what? We did not refer to the “official” anniversary gift giving list to determine what should be purchased to celebrate. Instead, we celebrated last Thursday (4 days early) by spending the day together eating at a favorite restaurant, exploring Ybor City, and taking a walk on Honeymoon Island.


And the day couldn’t have been more perfect! According to the official list, the traditional gift for the 35th anniversary is coral, or the modern gift is jade, but who made these lists anyhow?

I’d prefer a pitcher of sangria, a 1905 Salad, traditional Spanish dishes, and flan.

Nowhere on the list will you find “spend the day together”. Too bad. Anniversaries need to be recognized by spending time together whether that means a special dinner, a weekend getaway, or a day doing anything you enjoy, and it doesn’t matter if it’s the actual date of your anniversary so long as you make a plan to do something together to mark your special day.

Look at this crazy official list from Hallmark:

Anniversary Traditional Modern
1st Paper Clocks
2nd Cotton China
3rd Leather Crystal/Glass
4th Fruit/Flowers Appliances
5th Wood Silverware
6th Candy/Iron Wood
7th Wool/Copper Desk Sets
8th Pottery/Bronze Linens/Lace
9th Willow/Pottery Leather
10th Tin/Aluminum Diamond Jewelry
11th Steel Fashion Jewelry
12th Silk/Linen Pearls
13th Lace Textile Furs
14th Ivory Gold Jewelry
15th Crystal Watches
20th China Platinum
25th Silver Silver
30th Pearl Diamond
35th Coral Jade
40th Ruby Ruby
45th Sapphire Sapphire
50th Gold Gold
60th Diamond Diamond

How does paper become clocks or tin/aluminum change to diamond jewelry? I enjoyed looking at this list and make sure you click on the links for Hallmark’s suggestions of appropriate ways to recognize each of these years of marriage, but please do not feel obligated to stick to someone else’s idea of how you should celebrate your anniversary. Instead, make time for one another.



TBT: Lesson #12

No fancy wedding picture, but 35 years later, we’re as happy today as on our wedding day.

August 4, 1979 - Celebrating 35 years on Monday!
August 4, 1979 – Celebrating 35 years on Monday!

What were we thinking…getting married so young! Fortunately, my mother married at age 18 and John’s mother was 19 when she walked down the aisle, so at 20 no one questioned the wisdom of marrying my sweetheart of over two years.

According to experts, twenty-five is the earliest age for making a marriage that will last, but we’re proof that’s not always the case. Common goals, support of friends and family, and being content with one another when running errands, doing chores, or just hanging out experiencing the mundane moments of life serve as better tests of compatibility than age.

TBT Lesson #12: There are no rules as to when someone should marry. Too young, too old, too poor, too busy. When it’s the right person, none of those things matter.