What’s a Mother to Do?


It’s time to plan another wedding. On October 15, 2011, daughter #1 (first born, not favorite) married after a yearlong engagement. A year of planning, meeting with vendors, making decisions about location, guest lists, and wedding dress selection.

First mother of the bride experience - October 15, 2011.
First mother of the bride experience – October 15, 2011.

Now daughter #2 (second born) has set her wedding date for November of this year so it’s time to begin the serious business of planning another fall wedding. In fact, the wedding is ten months from today so what’s a mother to do?

The date’s been set, members of the bridal party have been selected, and we’ve discussed a budget and general ideas about location, style, and guests. Ideas for a wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses, and attire for the groomsmen have been collected and shared. I’ve set up an Evernote file to store any and all notes regarding wedding plans so I can access information not only from my computer but even from my phone. It’s always with me.  I wish I had known about this system for storing notes when planning the first wedding.

Our goals for the month: nail down a venue, arrange a time to look for a dress, and interview caterers. My job – insure that we stay on schedule. Offer to make calls or meet with vendors; but without pushing my ideas or nagging. I’m ready, willing, and able to be a partner in the planning process; but I’m also happy taking the back seat. After all, this is not my wedding.

Good news! The officiant and photographer have been selected! Two important items checked off the to do list, and best of all, I’m not a rookie. I’ve done this once. I’m sure I can do it again. I’m looking forward to another year of wedding planning.

2 thoughts on “What’s a Mother to Do?

  1. You’re the best Mother of the Bride! An expert in reminding your daughter that everything will be just fine. You even managed to convince Dad to let me have the reception at the house. I can’t imagine anywhere better. 🙂

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